Surrogate Matching Process

The Right Match Changes Everything.

This is not an algorithm. This is not a database search. This is two people, or a family, finding each other in one of the most meaningful ways possible.

Matching is the moment a surrogacy journey becomes real. It is the point where everything that came before, the applications, the screenings, the consultations, leads to a human connection that will shape the next two years of everyone’s lives.

At Avenir Fertility, we take matching seriously. Not just as a logistical step, but as one of the most important decisions made in your entire journey. We do not rush it. We do not force it. And we do not move forward until both you and your intended parent family feel genuinely right about each other.

HOW WE BUILD YOUR PROFILE

You Are More Than a Checklist.

Before matching begins, your coordinator works with you to build your surrogate profile. This is not a form. It is your story.

Your profile captures who you are as a person, your values, your family, your motivation for becoming a surrogate, your preferences for the kind of relationship you want with your intended parents, and the experiences that have shaped you. It gives intended parents a real sense of who they would be trusting with one of the most significant journeys of their lives.

You are in control of what goes into your profile. Your coordinator guides you, but this is your voice and your introduction.

WHAT WE LOOK FOR IN A MATCH

Compatibility Goes Deeper Than Paperwork.

A good match is not just about meeting requirements on both sides. It is about genuine alignment, on values, expectations, communication styles, and the kind of relationship both parties want throughout the journey.

When evaluating a potential match, we look at:

Values & Lifestyle — Do your values align with those of the intended parent family? Are there any lifestyle considerations that need to be compatible for this relationship to work?

Communication Expectations — How often does each party want to communicate? What does that look like during pregnancy? After birth? Alignment here prevents misunderstandings later.

Medical Preferences — Are there any medical decisions where both parties need to be aligned before moving forward?

Relationship Style — Some surrogates and intended parents want a close, ongoing relationship. Others prefer more defined boundaries. Neither is wrong, but both need to be on the same page.

Practical Considerations — Location, travel requirements, clinic proximity, and timeline alignment all factor into a successful match.

THE MATCHING PROCESS STEP BY STEP

Step 1 — Profile Review Once your profile is complete and approved, your coordinator begins presenting it to intended parent families whose preferences align with yours. You are never presented to families without your knowledge or consent.

Step 2 — Initial Match Presentation When your coordinator identifies a potential match, you receive the intended parent profile to review. You take the time you need. There is no deadline. There is no pressure to say yes to anyone you do not feel right about.

Step 3 — Two-Way Review Matching is always two-way. Both parties must express genuine interest before any introduction takes place.

Step 4 — The Match Meeting If both sides are interested, a match meeting is arranged, typically a video call, where you and the intended parents meet for the first time. Your coordinator facilitates the conversation. Ask anything. Share anything. This is the most important first impression of the journey.

Step 5 — Match Confirmation After the match meeting, both parties have time to reflect. If both you and the intended parents feel ready to move forward, the match is confirmed. If either party has reservations, we keep looking. No one is ever pressured into a match they are not fully comfortable with.

Step 6 — Moving Forward Together Once the match is confirmed, your coordinator begins coordinating the next steps, legal contracts, medical screening, and the formal start of your journey together.

WHAT IF THE MATCH DOES NOT FEEL RIGHT?

You Always Have a Voice.

You are never locked into a match. If after the match meeting something does not feel right, a value misalignment, a communication concern, a gut feeling you cannot name, you are always able to say so. Your coordinator will listen and keep looking for the right fit.

The same applies to intended parents. Matching is a mutual decision. Both parties must be genuinely ready and willing, or we do not move forward.

We would rather take more time to find the right match than move forward with the wrong one.

HOW LONG DOES MATCHING TAKE?

Honest Answer: It Depends.

Some surrogates are matched within weeks. Others take a few months. The timeline depends on your profile, your location, the availability of intended parent families whose preferences align with yours, and the time both parties need to feel confident.

Your coordinator keeps you informed throughout the entire matching period. You will never feel forgotten or left without updates.

USA VS. MEXICO PROGRAMS

USA Program Matching in our USA program draws from a pool of intended parents from around the world. Match timelines typically range from 1 to 4 months.

Mexico Program Our Mexico program matches surrogates based in Mexico City with both domestic and international intended parent families. Our local team facilitates the matching process entirely in Spanish. Match timelines in the Mexico program can move faster given the structure of the program.

The right match is out there. And when we find it, for you and for the family whose future you are about to be part of, everything moves forward.